Love, Relationships And All The Icky Stuff In-Between.

Over the years, my desires in life have changed.

I just wish our society (and all the content we are presented with in the media) would emphasize more on the fact there’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you or being sad over someone who doesn’t.

There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent in discovering yourself, without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love, instead of leaking it out in the desperate hopes of finding it in someone else.

That is much more important than being someone else’s better half.

Become a whole being on your own.

Go on road-trips. Get lost in the woods. Drive with your best friends, windows rolled down and singing until your lungs hurt. Wander around a new city at night. Leave kind notes in library books for strangers. Sit in a coffee shop alone and write. Dress up glamorous for yourself. Put on that makeup – red lipstick, winged liner and all of it – for yourself.  Smile. Smile more.  Show kindness and give love to others. Just freaking smile a lot!

Do everything you love – but don’t unnecessarily romanticize it like you can’t live without it.

I don’t know who is reading this – I don’t know you personally and hell, I might not have the slightest idea of what you’ve been through or at what point of life you stumbled up on this blog.

But I can promise you one thing. It will get better.

If you cried your hardest last night, your very hardest that you just can’t function anymore – all that you could do was choke on your tears and cripple with the pain, as your world came crashing down to you, it’s time to move on.

To everyone out there  who is caught up in all the icky complications- both big and small – it’s time to move on.

It’s time to just freaking close the chapter even if it was long enough to be a novel in itself.

Dust it off.

You’ve cried over this boy (or girl) several times before, when are you going to put yourself first? When are you going to realize that life isn’t about a trophy boyfriend or a trophy girlfriend  – but rather about the legacy that you leave behind.

Think of your 11 year old self.

When you were 11 years old, is this what you wanted? Would you have ever wished this for yourself?

Then why are you putting yourself through this?

You are so goddamn important and (s)he was a freaking idiot who didn’t deserve to know you the way (s)he did.

Let them go. Let them go. Just Let them G-O.

There is nothing more you can do.

Have patience with yourself. Nobody ever got better overnight!

The universe gives you just the right amount of things you need to go in time. Be grateful for everything – good and bad.

For now, remember that every day you survive is a step forward, and my darling you have survived so many days so far.

So just be proud of yourself, okay?

XOXO,

Bala.

P.S. It’s okay, just move on. (Whatever you were thinking while reading this, it’s going to be okay:)

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